The fear associated with emotional or sexual relationships; feeling that someone is too demanding; the sense of not being able to be independent of ones parent/lover, and feeling any personal independence or will is sucked away by them. We create this creature out of our own doubts or fears. If a man is afraid of sex – afraid his mother/lover will disapprove if he has any sexual feelings of his own – the fear and perhaps anger, will sap any good feelings about sexual relationship. Such a man or woman, every time they have sex – because they still do not really wish to give of themselves – feel bad after sex, perhaps sucked dry, even ‘dead’. The fear or anger about
